Teen Adoption

Adopting an older child, and a teen in particular, is one full of overwhelming emotions. Older children come into the adoption community by involuntary circumstances or government intervention. Unlike children adopted as infants, older adoptees will know their biological parents and have to differentiate between the two. Teen adoptees stand out even further because of the hormonal changes they're experiencing, which can often heighten the extremity with which they emote.

Teen adoption is one of the most challenging for adoptive parents. By the time a teen is adoptable, he or she may have already been in the foster system for a few years and dealt with the birth parent rejection or traumas that brought them into foster care. Teen adoptees are more likely to have strong opposition and trust issues when it comes to adults. Conversely, while a teen is acting radically he or she may even speak opening about love for a birth parent. This is something adoptive parents will need to accept as a way for teens to cope with the complexity of their situation. Teen adoptees may independently visit their birth mother or father without consent, although it's something that may need to be encouraged unless it becomes emotionally confusing. Adoptive families should develop trust with the teen and lead by example. Allowing an adoptee to experience whatever feelings are coming from the adoption or foster experience is paramount to the adjustment process and their ability to develop relationships in the future.


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vix - 4 months ago
we have had our grandchild since birth, she is now 16 and wants us to formally adopt her in Az. where we have lived in the same home for 20yrs. Her parents have never helped in anyway and sometimes go for years without seeing her. What is the easiest way for us to adopt her? I have a degree in Justice from a University and can prepare case paperwork and do filing to courts with guidance. Thank you for your advice. #1
lynzi bartolomew - 7 months ago
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I would love to adopt you lexis I had a girl named Alexis but my ex took her from me #2
annie - 6 months ago
I'm Annie Jane 17 yrs. old my Mom died nine years ago, and my Dad had a new family. I'm really lonely ,I want to have a new parents who will be with me and feel there love for me. I'm all alone now and sad. No one supports me in my studies. I'm just living at my Grandparents who is also not concern about me. #3
Alejandro - 8 months ago
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I need to be adoptid, from my family im 17 years old #4
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