Letter To Parents

Couples pursuing domestic infant adoption will be asked by a case worker, attorney or facilitator to create an adoption profile that can be presented to birth mothers considering placement. These portfolios are kind of like scrap books with photos that give an idea of the couple's the lifestyle. They also include letters to the future birth mother that introduce the couple and their desire to adopt a child.

General forms and guidelines for these letters can be found online. For the most part, they should be positive, upbeat and express support for the birth mother's decision to place. Some adoptive parents choose to keep in contact with the birth mother after placement. A thank you letter to the birth parents as well as an occasional letter to update them on the child's development. Pictures may also be exchanged, but any post-placement contact is done at the discretion of the adoptive parents. Many birth mothers have to continue counseling after an adoption is finalized and letters can help her feel more comfortable in her decision.

Although it's a formality that can make a birth mother feel even more confident in her decision, maintaining contact through letters is something an adoptee may value later in life. The only possible downfall of keeping correspondence is the potential for losing contact with one another. This can be confusing for a child.