Finding Adopted Children

The process of finding adopted children as a birth relative looking for a reunion or meeting or to notify the child of possible health concerns is slightly more difficult than the process of an adoptee looking for a birth relative.

There are a few different routes a searching birth relative can take to find an adoptee. First, birth relatives can register with the state registry in which the adoption was finalized. After registering with the state, the registrants will be contacted if another member of the adoption triad mutually consents to establish contact or releasing the adoption record. After registering with the state, the registrant can also petition the courts to have a confidential intermediary appointed to their case. The C.I. will have access to the adoption record and can conduct a search and facilitate contact between the adoption parties.

Birth parents and adoptees can also go to the agency through which an adoption was facilitated and ask about post-adoption search services. These may have fees and legal hurdles, but are worth a try. There are other active ways to search, such as database registries online. Birth relatives can register and look through the lists of other registrants in hopes of finding adopted children who are also searching within the database and are a potential match.

The search process can be emotionally and financially draining. Be sure to find some kind of support group, either in-person or online in a forum or birth relative community, to help in the event of a failed search or refused contact.


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Tameka - 9 months ago
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Hello.. my name is Tameka and I am searching for my baby girl that was born in 2003 in augusta ga, university hospital. She only weighed five pounds at delivery. This birth resulted from a rape. I just want her to know that she was always loved. I only wanted her to have a better chance in life with a loving family. I hated to give her up but what kinda chance would she have with a mother who felt "gutted". Please feel free to contact me with any information. Thank you #1
Tressa Lindsey - 2 months ago
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Hi, My name is Tressa Lindsey and i am searching for my little brother and sisters. I am their 2nd oldest sister and need help finding them, Keith Lindsey was adopted out somewhere in Parsons Ks Jackie Lindsey was adopted out somewhere in Parsons KS Tosha Lindsey im not sure of she was adopted out somewhere between Walnut KS and Chanute KS. Keith is 8 Tosha 5-6 and Jackie is 3-4. I am not sure how to find them, I have been searching for them for 3-4 years i miss them dearly please help my email is xxxx I was never mentioned in the court case and have no way to find them please contact me if found! #2
Leanne - 2 days ago
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I was 14 yrs old and had a baby boy born September 24th, 1988 at St. Johns Hospital in Longview, Washington. I am hoping that he finds me. The birth of my beautiful son was a result of a rape in Longview, Washington. I was born and raised in Longview, Washington and some family still live there but I got married and moved to Oregon, now residing in Aloha, Oregon and have given birth to 4 other children but 3 are still living, so if you are my son and looking for me you have a 17 yr old half sister, a 15 yr old half brother and a 12 yr old half sister. I hope you find us and can come learn some family history and meet your siblings. I am still happily married to the same man I married at age 19 yrs old in Longview, Washington and got married at First Baptist Church when it was by the Lake Sacajawea. #3
sheila mcqueen - 4 days ago
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hello my name is Sheila and I am looking for the baby my sister gave up for adoption he was born I believe in 1994 in Kansas I think in hays baby was adopted to parents in Colorado birth mom was Jeanne Wedd it was a open adoption as this child bio aunt I want to find him to see if he wants to know any one in the family because there are several people that would like to meet and or exchange all info he would like from health issues to family trees and any other info as his aunt I would love to find him I don't know his name or anything other than what I have already said you can reach me at xxxx please god help me find you I have been searching for a very long time #4
JARROD - 1 week ago
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Hi my name is Jarrod I am searching for a little girl who I am 95% positive is mine. I was never put on B. Cert. I was incarcerated and the mother lost rights. I was unable to apear to get necessary proceedings done for dna, child support etc. I do not want custody or in anyway want to disrupt her life. I merely want to let her know i love her and what happened on my end. If need financially help family raise her. She was born April 13 2010 in Branson , mo @ skaggs hospital. Her name was Jasmine Nicole carroll ( short) I believe she was adopted by a family named Brown. Can anyonehelp por point me in right direction please and thank you #5
Tamica - 1 week ago
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Hi. My name is Tamica Thompson. I am looking for my son. His name is David Daquan Holmes. I have been looking for him for many years. I recently searched for my sons father on google, went into obituaries, and found out that his father, Donald, passed away 12-24-08. I never gave my son up willingly. He was basically snatched out of my life. I sent him to his father 12 years ago, and I never saw him again. It wasn't because, of his father. It was his girlgriend, Joanna Williams who kept me away from him, when Donald was incarcerated. She basically kidnapped my son, and now, I recently found out that the adoption was finalized. My son is out there thinking that I don't love him or didn't want him. The Devil is a lie. I've been living a nightmare for many years, and cried oceans. My dream is to look him in his eyes and tell him how much I love him. He has a right to know the truth. My poor baby. He has no clue. He doesn't know I love him so much. Please help bring him back to me. #6
Michael - 3 months ago
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Hi, I have been looking for my daughter, born in Cincinnati OH, Nov 1994 (20 years old). For all of you looking for your birth parent(s), there are just as many birth parents looking for you. So, whatever you do, don't give up the search. As for my own situation, I do not know my daughters first or last name like I had originally thought, and contacting the mother is not an option. I knew the mother for about 2 months ,and my daughter for about one hour. After birth, the court decided which parent is best for the child - and when a long distance situationl is involved, the court will favor the mother. When this happens it is just too painful (at least for me) to contenplate a long distance relationship in which a father might not be able to see the child more than once in a while. It was clear the mother was undermining the relationship and insisted on making the latest new fiance the acting father at birth. I would be cautious if parents are not supporting you in your search. #7
Lisa - 2 months ago
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I am in search of my baby boy that i gave up for adoption in 1990. He was born on Oct 29, 1990 in Mankato, MN he was then put in foster care in Minneapolis,MN thru the adoption process. I was able to choose the family who has him and know that he was delivered to them around New Years of 1990. The adoption was thru Lutheran Social Services in Minneapolis, MN. I did not name him on his birth certificate (but called him Mathew)so his original birth certificate would say Baby Boy Skarin, Mother-Lisa Kay Skarin I resided in Cleveland, Mn at the time of his birth. I just want you to know that I have loved you always and would like to know that you are ok. Any information as to where you are I would be very pleased to know. Praying to find you soon. Love Lisa #8
Nancy - 4 days ago
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I am looking for my daughter they took her away from me in lancaster ca.Her name is Toni Lynn Mosley.she was born on october 19. i dont want to disrupt her life i just want her to know that i love her and explain to her why things happen the way they did. #9
Guest - 2 months ago
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I'm trying to help my grandmother find her older sister who was adopted out. She probably doesn't know that she has a sister and may not know her parents names either. She was most likely born in Yakima, Washington between 1933 and 1937. My grandmother was told that the building with all the adoption records burned down and she hasn't been able to find any information. The birth mothers maiden name was Ella Mae Howden and the fathers name was Gary Henry Karnes. The child was born out of wedlock so which was very hushed up at the time, if you have any information, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you #10
elizabeth - 2 weeks ago
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had 2 half sisters that i talked with briefly on the phone. my biological mother couldnt keep it together so she had them taken away from her. they were adopted. i think one was named anglina. i cant remember the other sisters name. but i would like to contact them. my name is elizabeth. our biological mother was/is tammy lammers. #11
Andrea - 3 weeks ago
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I'm looking for my niece Dylan Nicole. My brother gave up his parental rights so that she could be adopted by her mother Mary's husband. I know that she was born in Scottsdale, AZ. and is around 23-25 years old. Birth father's name is William Hopkins. #12
Guest - 3 weeks ago
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MY NAME IS MICHELE IM LOKKING FOR TWO DAUGHTERS WHO WERE TAKEN BY THE STATE IN DENVER CO / ISAVIA IVORY FOSTER AND KRISTEN ANNE FOSTER / I ISIAVIA FOSTER WAS BORN 12/14/1992 / AND KRISTEN ANNE FOSTER 1/4/1994 PLEASE CONTACT ME AT xxxx IF ANY INFO FOUND PLEASE AND THANK YOU #13
Diana - 2 months ago
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I had a baby girl in 1978 at Holy Cross Hospital in Montgomery County Md. I was 16 years old and my parents were not interested in helping. After the birth it was like it never happened. She is still never mentioned. I signed papers that she could find me if she wanted. I felt it should be her desision. I just want to know that she is ok. I never stopped thinking of her. Her birth name was Leslie Diana. I need to know I did the right thing. It eats at me all the time. Please any advice would be appreciated. Thank you #14
Chocolate 1984 - 1 month ago
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I'm looking for my daughter MAKAYLA WILLIAMS!! I think she's located in Ocala Fl, she was born on May 22,2004 in Gainesville fl. I'm hoping that the family that adopted her would let me and my kids be apart of her life??!! I will fight till the day i die..If anyone has any answers please let me know!! I miss her so much!!! But I know God won't let me down... #15
stephanie - 10 months ago
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Hi.. My name is Stephanie anania. Me and my older sister gloria were adopted.. As babies! We had found out a few years back that we had a younger sister.. Who was also adopted. Her name was Tina Marie.. When she was born. But that might have changed. We have been looking for her for so long! I am 23 years old, and gloria, my sister, is 24. Our younger sister who we are trying to find is I believe 20-21? We were told she was born in 1992.. In February I believe. We dont even know if she knows she's adopted, or has sisters.. If anyone knows.. Or has any information! It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! :) #16
Chris - 3 months ago
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Hi, Looking for my daughter, born June 10, 1967 at George Washington Universary Hospital, in Washington D. C. Adopted possibly by a family liveing on the Eastern Shore of Md. Parents were teachers. I asked that she be placed with a Methodist family. I named her Stacy Lynn, but most likely they change it. Have been looking for you for years. Miss you! A day doesn't go by that I don't think of you! Wanted to let you know about medical issues that my affect you. Your father and I both want to hear from you! Would love to see my beautiful daughter again! #17
Elizabeth - 1 month ago
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I'm looking for my 4yr old daughter Isabella Miranda Roberts. She was taken from me due to DV. I am the victim. I think about her constantly and hope I'll find her. Her birthdate is 12-15-09. If someone knows something please let me know that she's ok. My name is Elizabeth Rodriguez from SAN Diego CA. Thanks #18
WILLIAM ROBERSON - 2 months ago
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I am looking for my son born in Wichita Kansas in summer of 1970. The birth mother was named Janice Redman and lived at 1707 N Minnesota in Wichita Kansas. My intentions are to meet him and allow the both of us to know that at least one of his birth parents didn't abandon him. I want him to know where he came from and that he has other brothers and sisters. My e-mail address is xxxx #19
Valerie - 3 months ago
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Hi, I am looking for my daughter who was born on June 6, 1996 in Inglewood, California. Her birth name is Monique S. Clark, because she is now 18 years old I want her to know why she was adopted and to let her know that I have loved her and her brothers from the moment I held them in my arms. The reason they were adopted is because I gave birth to them as a result of years of sexual, mental and physical abuse. I would love to be contacted with ANY information about the whereabouts of my beautiful girl. #20
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