Finding Adopted Children

The process of finding adopted children as a birth relative looking for a reunion or meeting or to notify the child of possible health concerns is slightly more difficult than the process of an adoptee looking for a birth relative.

There are a few different routes a searching birth relative can take to find an adoptee. First, birth relatives can register with the state registry in which the adoption was finalized. After registering with the state, the registrants will be contacted if another member of the adoption triad mutually consents to establish contact or releasing the adoption record. After registering with the state, the registrant can also petition the courts to have a confidential intermediary appointed to their case. The C.I. will have access to the adoption record and can conduct a search and facilitate contact between the adoption parties.

Birth parents and adoptees can also go to the agency through which an adoption was facilitated and ask about post-adoption search services. These may have fees and legal hurdles, but are worth a try. There are other active ways to search, such as database registries online. Birth relatives can register and look through the lists of other registrants in hopes of finding adopted children who are also searching within the database and are a potential match.

The search process can be emotionally and financially draining. Be sure to find some kind of support group, either in-person or online in a forum or birth relative community, to help in the event of a failed search or refused contact.


1 ~ 2013 jun 13: find a family: Adoption & fostering - finding families for UK children Adopt or foster a child in the UK through Be My Parent, a service for agencies and families from the British Association for Adoption & Fostering (BAAF)

Visitor Comments (61)
Adding your comments contributes to the adoption community. Please keep all comments on topic and civil. Visitors are invited to comment and vote for or flag comments based on appropriateness and helpfulness. All comments must adhere to our commenting rules and are subject to moderation.
Tameka - 8 months ago
0 0 4
Hello.. my name is Tameka and I am searching for my baby girl that was born in 2003 in augusta ga, university hospital. She only weighed five pounds at delivery. This birth resulted from a rape. I just want her to know that she was always loved. I only wanted her to have a better chance in life with a loving family. I hated to give her up but what kinda chance would she have with a mother who felt "gutted". Please feel free to contact me with any information. Thank you #1
Michael - 2 months ago
0 0 1
Hi, I have been looking for my daughter, born in Cincinnati OH, Nov 1994 (20 years old). For all of you looking for your birth parent(s), there are just as many birth parents looking for you. So, whatever you do, don't give up the search. As for my own situation, I do not know my daughters first or last name like I had originally thought, and contacting the mother is not an option. I knew the mother for about 2 months ,and my daughter for about one hour. After birth, the court decided which parent is best for the child - and when a long distance situationl is involved, the court will favor the mother. When this happens it is just too painful (at least for me) to contenplate a long distance relationship in which a father might not be able to see the child more than once in a while. It was clear the mother was undermining the relationship and insisted on making the latest new fiance the acting father at birth. I would be cautious if parents are not supporting you in your search. #2
Lisa - 2 weeks ago
0 0 0
I am in search of my baby boy that i gave up for adoption in 1990. He was born on Oct 29, 1990 in Mankato, MN he was then put in foster care in Minneapolis,MN thru the adoption process. I was able to choose the family who has him and know that he was delivered to them around New Years of 1990. The adoption was thru Lutheran Social Services in Minneapolis, MN. I did not name him on his birth certificate (but called him Mathew)so his original birth certificate would say Baby Boy Skarin, Mother-Lisa Kay Skarin I resided in Cleveland, Mn at the time of his birth. I just want you to know that I have loved you always and would like to know that you are ok. Any information as to where you are I would be very pleased to know. Praying to find you soon. Love Lisa #3
Guest - 3 weeks ago
0 0 0
I'm trying to help my grandmother find her older sister who was adopted out. She probably doesn't know that she has a sister and may not know her parents names either. She was most likely born in Yakima, Washington between 1933 and 1937. My grandmother was told that the building with all the adoption records burned down and she hasn't been able to find any information. The birth mothers maiden name was Ella Mae Howden and the fathers name was Gary Henry Karnes. The child was born out of wedlock so which was very hushed up at the time, if you have any information, it would be greatly appreciated. Thank you #4
Chocolate 1984 - 2 days ago
0 0 0
I'm looking for my daughter MAKAYLA WILLIAMS!! I think she's located in Ocala Fl, she was born on May 22,2004 in Gainesville fl. I'm hoping that the family that adopted her would let me and my kids be apart of her life??!! I will fight till the day i die..If anyone has any answers please let me know!! I miss her so much!!! But I know God won't let me down... #5
Elizabeth - 7 days ago
0 0 0
I'm looking for my 4yr old daughter Isabella Miranda Roberts. She was taken from me due to DV. I am the victim. I think about her constantly and hope I'll find her. Her birthdate is 12-15-09. If someone knows something please let me know that she's ok. My name is Elizabeth Rodriguez from SAN Diego CA. Thanks #6
Tressa Lindsey - 1 month ago
0 0 0
Hi, My name is Tressa Lindsey and i am searching for my little brother and sisters. I am their 2nd oldest sister and need help finding them, Keith Lindsey was adopted out somewhere in Parsons Ks Jackie Lindsey was adopted out somewhere in Parsons KS Tosha Lindsey im not sure of she was adopted out somewhere between Walnut KS and Chanute KS. Keith is 8 Tosha 5-6 and Jackie is 3-4. I am not sure how to find them, I have been searching for them for 3-4 years i miss them dearly please help my email is xxxx I was never mentioned in the court case and have no way to find them please contact me if found! #7
WILLIAM ROBERSON - 2 weeks ago
0 0 0
I am looking for my son born in Wichita Kansas in summer of 1970. The birth mother was named Janice Redman and lived at 1707 N Minnesota in Wichita Kansas. My intentions are to meet him and allow the both of us to know that at least one of his birth parents didn't abandon him. I want him to know where he came from and that he has other brothers and sisters. My e-mail address is xxxx #8
Diana - 1 month ago
0 0 0
I had a baby girl in 1978 at Holy Cross Hospital in Montgomery County Md. I was 16 years old and my parents were not interested in helping. After the birth it was like it never happened. She is still never mentioned. I signed papers that she could find me if she wanted. I felt it should be her desision. I just want to know that she is ok. I never stopped thinking of her. Her birth name was Leslie Diana. I need to know I did the right thing. It eats at me all the time. Please any advice would be appreciated. Thank you #9
William Paul McCoy - 2 weeks ago
0 0 0
I'm looking for my son he was born in valparaiso Indiana July 14 1996. He is 18 today and I hold on to the hope that one day soon he will contact me. In the paper work at the time of the adoption we put contact numbers so that when or if he was ready he could contact us. I cannot express the pain I have gone thru for 18 years over the decision that was made. I love and miss you and hope you are ok. #10
Chris - 1 month ago
0 0 0
Hi, Looking for my daughter, born June 10, 1967 at George Washington Universary Hospital, in Washington D. C. Adopted possibly by a family liveing on the Eastern Shore of Md. Parents were teachers. I asked that she be placed with a Methodist family. I named her Stacy Lynn, but most likely they change it. Have been looking for you for years. Miss you! A day doesn't go by that I don't think of you! Wanted to let you know about medical issues that my affect you. Your father and I both want to hear from you! Would love to see my beautiful daughter again! #11
Guest - 3 weeks ago
0 0 0
My name is Alicia Key Bell. I am looking for my son that I gave up for adoption in July 1991. He was born July 12 in the hospital in Gulfport MS at 10;45 AM. I gave him up for adoption through the Catholic Diocese in Biloxi, MS. His adoptive parents last name is Pittman if I remember correctly. I was only 16 when I gave birth and felt pressured to give him up for adoption. I have never forgotten about him and always prayed God would bring him back to me. Please email me at xxxx #12
Valerie - 2 months ago
0 0 0
Hi, I am looking for my daughter who was born on June 6, 1996 in Inglewood, California. Her birth name is Monique S. Clark, because she is now 18 years old I want her to know why she was adopted and to let her know that I have loved her and her brothers from the moment I held them in my arms. The reason they were adopted is because I gave birth to them as a result of years of sexual, mental and physical abuse. I would love to be contacted with ANY information about the whereabouts of my beautiful girl. #13
Nikki - 3 weeks ago
0 0 0
I'm looking for my nephews that were adopted out. Jeremy Brown and Tristan Edwards. Jeremy was born in January 2000 and Tristan a few years later. They were adopted out when Tristan was 6. They came from Princeton, Texas and born in a McKinney hospital. The last thing Jeremy told us was that when he turned 18 that he would search for us. I took care of them more than my sister did and it eats me up everyday that I can't see them. Thank you for reading. #14
stephanie - 8 months ago
0 0 1
Hi.. My name is Stephanie anania. Me and my older sister gloria were adopted.. As babies! We had found out a few years back that we had a younger sister.. Who was also adopted. Her name was Tina Marie.. When she was born. But that might have changed. We have been looking for her for so long! I am 23 years old, and gloria, my sister, is 24. Our younger sister who we are trying to find is I believe 20-21? We were told she was born in 1992.. In February I believe. We dont even know if she knows she's adopted, or has sisters.. If anyone knows.. Or has any information! It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! :) #15
Amber - 1 month ago
0 0 0
I am in search of my sons grandparents, my sons father was adopted at birth, he was born April 27th 1983 in Arizona his adoptive mom told me his birth parents names were Tina and Allen brunk and I am having a hard time finding them. I would just really like to find out family history for our sons sake. My email address is xxxx #16
lois - 1 month ago
0 0 0
My grandson was born in Minneapolis minnesota on July 7th 1996. The adoptive parents said they would keep his given name ELIJAH BLUE. HIS FATHER S NAME IS Keith. My email is xxxx. We believe the adoptive mother or father is a doctor. Probably an OB/GUN or family physician in Minnesota. I am his grandmother and Elijah is turning 18 this year and would like to make a connection #17
lynn weidman - 2 weeks ago
0 0 0
I am searching for my daughter Katie who was adopted in Charleston sc on 8/24/89. I want too get to know you..and fire you too know I only wanted a life for you that I never had....my email address is xxxx #18
JACKIE - 3 months ago
0 0 1
I AM LOOKING FOR MY SISTER THAT WAS GIVEN UP AT BIRTH - BORN JUNE 17,1963 AT ONEIDA HOSP,ONEIDA,N.Y. COULD HAVE RARE MEDICAL PROBLEM WITH BLOOD - LOST MY OTHER SISTER AT JUST 50YEARS OLD TO THIS BLOOD DISORDER #19
Robert - 2 months ago
0 0 0
Am seeking white female born sometime in May 1977 at Ft Eustis Va. military hospital. The birth mother gave child up at birth without the child's father's permission. The birth father was never aware of the birth until 1978. The birth parents were never married at the time and I am seeking this information only to help you identify both your birth mother and father. #20
Domestic Adoption?
Virginia
Click here to visit Adoption Home Study Provider
If you live in the U.S. and are going to adopt, you will need an adoption home study. Click here to find a home study provider in your area. Get Started Today!
Adoption Home Study Provider
 
advertisement

Parent Profiles

We met through our work as federal law enforcement officers. Our lives together have been a wonderful and wild adventure. Andrea is looking forward to turning in her handcuffs for a diaper... [more]

[about us]   [contact us]   [waiting couples in VA]   [all]

Adoption Photo Listing

Latour (VA / 17 / M)
This duo will enchant you! Latour and Dominique are an African American brother and sister team, and they want to grow up together in a permanent family. They both sport beautiful... [more]

[about me]   [search]   [waiting children in VA]   [all]