Finding Adopted Children

The process of finding adopted children as a birth relative looking for a reunion or meeting or to notify the child of possible health concerns is slightly more difficult than the process of an adoptee looking for a birth relative.

There are a few different routes a searching birth relative can take to find an adoptee. First, birth relatives can register with the state registry in which the adoption was finalized. After registering with the state, the registrants will be contacted if another member of the adoption triad mutually consents to establish contact or releasing the adoption record. After registering with the state, the registrant can also petition the courts to have a confidential intermediary appointed to their case. The C.I. will have access to the adoption record and can conduct a search and facilitate contact between the adoption parties.

Birth parents and adoptees can also go to the agency through which an adoption was facilitated and ask about post-adoption search services. These may have fees and legal hurdles, but are worth a try. There are other active ways to search, such as database registries online. Birth relatives can register and look through the lists of other registrants in hopes of finding adopted children who are also searching within the database and are a potential match.

The search process can be emotionally and financially draining. Be sure to find some kind of support group, either in-person or online in a forum or birth relative community, to help in the event of a failed search or refused contact.


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katia pacheco - 2 weeks ago
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Hi my name is katia marie pacheco am 23 yrs old am trying to find my birth Mother and family i was born in ponce pr my birthday is june 1st 1990 my adopted mom and dad are nancy .e .vazquez And raul lugo pacheco please if u out there am looking for u I been try scince i was young please can any one help me Email : xxxx Facebook : user nickname zprodite or kathia pacheco My cell is xxxxx #1
sabrina DeHerrera - 2 months ago
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I'm looking for my babys who are grown now my son Daniel joesph Deherrera born 3/22/88 and my daughter Nicole Lynn DeHerrera born 4/23/89 and my son Ronnie ad rein Martinez Deherrera 4/26/91 and my Isaac Louis DeHerrera 11/22/95 and my Naomi Lynn DeHerrera 5/10/98 and my isaiah lee DeHerrera 12/11/02 who was adopted ba lady named beth I lost contact with I love all of yous so much I never meant for any of yous to be taken away I'm so sorry I'm your mom I love yous all I pray that yous had good people that raised yous I put yous in gods hands your uncles Matt and Tim luv yous also so doses your grandma Darlene we pray for the day God brings us together I love yous my xxxxx timmys#xxxxx grandma # xxxxx matthews# xxxxx #2
Deanna - 3 months ago
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Birth mom looking. I named him Richard Kyle. He was born Sept.3,1992 in Cedar Rapids,Iowa and was in foster care in Sioux City Iowa. Adopted out through Sioux City DHS sometime AFTER his 1st birthday. The foster mom may or may not have kept. Unsure of memory, but the names Julie and Sheila won't leave my head. #3
stephanie - 5 months ago
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Hi.. My name is Stephanie anania. Me and my older sister gloria were adopted.. As babies! We had found out a few years back that we had a younger sister.. Who was also adopted. Her name was Tina Marie.. When she was born. But that might have changed. We have been looking for her for so long! I am 23 years old, and gloria, my sister, is 24. Our younger sister who we are trying to find is I believe 20-21? We were told she was born in 1992.. In February I believe. We dont even know if she knows she's adopted, or has sisters.. If anyone knows.. Or has any information! It would be greatly appreciated. Thank you! :) #4
Keith - 2 months ago
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My son was born on Nov 8 1970 at Somerset memorial in Somerset Pa.I found out about him on July 12 2012 please help me find him. #5
Tameka - 4 months ago
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Hello.. my name is Tameka and I am searching for my baby girl that was born in 2003 in augusta ga, university hospital. She only weighed five pounds at delivery. This birth resulted from a rape. I just want her to know that she was always loved. I only wanted her to have a better chance in life with a loving family. I hated to give her up but what kinda chance would she have with a mother who felt "gutted". Please feel free to contact me with any information. Thank you #6
Camille - 2 months ago
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Hi, I had a Son who was born July 23 1971 at sisters Hospital in Buffalo, N.Y His birth name was John Nicholas ~~`. He was adopted through catholic charities. I signed his papers in March of 1971. It took me a while to be able to give him up.I would love to hear from him #7
lynne - 2 months ago
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I am looking for my baby girl,born september 3 1978 in houston..at texas women's hospital..adopted through homes if st.mark's in hoston,tx #8
Roxanne - 2 months ago
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I'm looking for my sisters who was adopted. My sisters were adopted together. Born in Austin, Tx. The DOB of my sisters would be July/August 31st and May 26. Their birth names are Deanna and Dana Sandoval. #9
Patricia - 2 months ago
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My daughter was born on 11/11/1963 in Evansville In. her sisters and I are trying to locate her. any help would help us,would like to meet with her if she wishes #10
Karen- Massachusetts - 2 months ago
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My son was born 12/18/69 @ Boston-Lying-In Hospital. He was adopted through NE Home for Little Wanderers. He found me in 1995? and we met once @ The South Shore Mall. I thought he would keep in touch, but I never heard from him again. I have misplaced his letters and would like very much to reestablish contact. If you have info or know him, please leave message. Thank you #11
Lisa - 2 months ago
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Hi im looking for my adopted boys and their birth names are Christopher Lee Fuentes born May 8,2002, Nazerath Judas Camacho born March 24,2006, Ezara Opion Camacho born April 20,2007 #12
melinda wilson - 2 months ago
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Hello wourld I been thinking about my son sence adoption took place his bi sisters bro will love to see him now there older a lot has changed his birthday coming up we will love to see how much he's grown up I lov my son when he get older hopefully he will understand. #13
CASANDRA NEWPORT - 2 months ago
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HELLO I HAD A SON HIS BRITH NAME WAS ALEXS SAMUEL CASTILLO AND HE WAS BORN ON MARCH 12 1998 AT ST LUKES HOSPITAL IN HOUSTON TX HE END UP GETTING ADOPTED IN APRIL OF 1998 AND IT WAS SUPOST TO BE AN OPEN ADOPTION BUT I SAW HIM FOR 2 HOURS IN APIRL OF 1998 AND I NEVER SEEN OR HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN NOW HE IS 15 YEARS OLD FIXING TO BE 16 YEARS OLD ON MARCH 12 2014 AND I NEED TO FIND HIM IM DIEING AND I NEED TO SEE HIM BEFORE I GO TO HEAVEN I HAVE A FACE BOOK PROFILE SHOWS A PICTURE OF MY SON AND MY DAUGHTER ON MY FRONT PAGE TOO AND I LOVE YOU MY SON ALWAYS HAVE SINCE YOU WAS IN MOMMYS TUMMY MY FULL NAME IS CASANDRA LYNNE NEWPORT I HAVE YOUR BABY PICTURES OF YOU WHEN YOU WAS BORN AND BRITH PAPERS HOPEFULLY GOD WILL BRING YOU TO ME SOON MY SON #14
Andrea - 2 months ago
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Hi I am 35 years old and have two kids. I cant have no more kids I have been with my hubby for 14 years we have the room and the love little one I am a stay at home mom. He is a truck drive please help are dream come true #15
Adele - 4 months ago
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I am looking for my son John Gabriel, born Sept 27 1974. Born in phoenix, az. he is 39 yrs old now. I have been having difficulty finding any info. I know his adoptive father was a Dr i dont however know their names. If anyone has any advice on locating him, it would be greatly appreciated!! Thank you. #16
Dmitry - 2 months ago
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I was born in Kazan Russia. #17
Kelly - 3 months ago
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We are looking for JONA MARIE SCHOUTEN. She was born in Kalamazoo, MI. on Jan. 25th 1961 to Dora Lee Schouten. When Jona was 6 months old she caught pneumonia #18
Andree - 5 months ago
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I am looking for my son Benjamin. He was adopted by Jim and Arlene, Idaho Feb. 1992 #19
Carlos Cuervo - 4 months ago
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We are looking for our son DOB: Nov 18 1973, at Jackson University Hospital, Ms, name at birth Erick Shawn Sauls was born with a sister that passed away same day. Please Erick Shawn is now 40 years old, and just recently found his mother and he was put for adoption on not very clear assumptions! Please help!! #20
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