Adoption Find Birthmother

Adoption requires some balancing of its complex underlying identity in a family. And although an adoption is finalized shortly after a child is placed with adoptive family, there are many post-placement services that many triad members make use of decades after an adoption decree is issued. As adoptees mature, they may find themselves more interested in their genetic backgrounds and birth parents. Often, this leads to birth parent searches.

The decision to go out and find a birth mother may be for insight into one's medical history or may be motivated by pure curiosity about the questions an adoptee has had for years. The decision to search is also triggered by big events in a triad member's life, such as a graduation, adoption, marriage, death or a pregnancy.

Finding one's birth mother will require some work. Domestic adoptees who were placed prior to birth, may be able to ask their adoptive parent for information about their birth mother. They can also register at the state's adoption record registry. If the adoptee and his or her birth mother both register, the sealed adoption record will be released and both parties will be notified. Services that help find a birth mother are available with fees from agencies as well as volunteer services offered by Search Angels.

All adoptees trying to find their birth mother should engage in support group meetings as well as being open with their families about the process. It can be emotionally demanding and time-consuming and may not always yield the kind of results or closure many searchers hope to find.